Friday, August 18, 2017

The Settlers.

 

  Guess who's back.  Back again.  Holy guacamole I just realized I haven't written a blog post since May.  What's with that?!  It's like I'm actually enjoying life and not finding anything I feel the need to rant about.  Well, fear not freaks!  Cause I have once again found something that's bothering the shit out of me that I feel the need to express to everyone and anyone that decides to read this.
  You guys.  There are 7.442 billion people in this world. 7.442 BILLION.  And for some god-forsaken reason, men and women still insist on settling for that one douche-bag or bitch who doesn't give them exactly what they want and deserve.  What's with that?! Don't get me wrong, I am SOOO guilty of this.  You find someone, you fall in love, and you convince yourself that their 495 imperfections are something you can "accept" because you "love them".  PUH-LEASE PEOPLE. This is bullshit! You get one life, kids.  ONE LIFE.  Why on earth do you want to spend even a second of it with someone who doesn't make you utterly and ridiculously over-the-moon happy and in love MOST of the time?!  I'm not that naive, I know that every relationship has it's ups and downs and nothing is ever perfect, but come onnnnnnn.  Why are women staying with the guy who doesn't call them when they say they will, or doesn't show up to the family party they swore they'd be at, or is constantly flirting with other girls?  And why are men staying with the woman who picks apart every single thing they do and makes them miserable on a daily basis?  It just blows my mind, honestly.  Each and every single one of us deserves to be stupidly happy.  Why are you settling?! Why are you wasting a minute of your life with someone who isn't perfect for you when you could be spending that time finding someone who is?  Maybe it's just me, but I'd rather be alone and single than with someone I am not 100% sure is right for me.  And ANOTHER thing.  Why do people keep taking their ex's back over and over?!  A leopard never changes its' spots kids.  Don't get me wrong, I'm all about second chances.  But 3rd, 4th, 5th?! Get outta hereeeeeeee with that nonsense. They were dumb enough to let you go in the first place so why are you even going to entertain the idea of letting them back in? The relationship ended for a reason... that reason is most likely still a factor.
  I've been thinking a lot lately about why people settle and accept the bullshit that they do.  And I have come to the conclusion that fear plays a BIG part in it.  Fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, fear of change.  All of these things prevent us from leaving the very thing (person, in this case) that is causing our unhappiness.  We get in this routine where we just accept things the way they are and convince ourselves we don't have an option.  Well, guess what?  You do!  It's not an easy thing by any means, but you owe it to yourself to say "SEE YA LATER" to that significant other that isn't fulfilling you anymore.  It's OK to be selfish. Do you really want to spend your time with someone that you know in the back of your mind will never change or make you as happy as you deserve, when someone who very well could, could be right around the corner?  That's just silly.  WAKE UP.  This is your only life.  You owe it to yourself to live it to the damn fullest.
  So, in conclusion, STOP SETTLING.  Leave that d-bag that your family hates and leave that gal who only wants you when its convenient for her. Don't stay with that person who just makes you "happy" when you know very well you could find someone who makes you drunk in love.  Just BE HAPPY and LIVE YOUR DAMN LIFE. I know that I, for one, will not be settling for anyone who doesn't make me feel like I'm living out the lyrics to a damn country song. That's about all I have to say so I'll leave you with this cheesy quote.

"Some people are settling down, some people are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies.” - Candace Bushnell