Yes, I'm aware that the first chapter of Red Flag Friday is being posted on a Saturday but I was out last night and busy going to Hogwarts so cut me some slack, OK?!
Picture this - You're 20 years old, it's 2 am and you're driving around the streets of RI with your sister and brother in law looking for your intoxicated boyfriend who made a scene at your family party and then fled. TALK ABOUT A RED FLAG.
At the very green age of 20, one can be extremely naive. You want to believe that there is good in everyone, love conquers all and that your life is like a Katherine Heigl romcom. You think you can fix everyone and that just because someone does bad things, over and over, it doesn't make them a bad person. Something you learn as you get older is that some people don't want to change and some people cannot be fixed. And SOME people, are just all in all, really shitty people.
Once upon a time there was a girl who met a boy and fell "in love" (or so she thought at the time) with a very troubled boy. This boy did many terrible things over and over but she forgave him, over and over. One evening in particular, this boy accompanied her to a wedding of someone in her family. The boy and girl were both under the age of 21 at the time, so as much as they wanted to, they were not permitted to enjoy adult beverages at that wedding. After the wedding, they were invited to a family members house to continue the celebration. The boy, who clearly had 0 morals or respect for anyone or anything, took it upon himself to go against the wishes of the homeowner and steal and consume adult beverages. After he had consumed some, and became slightly inebriated, he was caught in the act. The owner of the home was obviously angry, and scolded him for what he had done. In a fit of embarrassment, the boy fled the party and started walking the streets.
Since the girl was such a loyal girlfriend, she stuck up for the boy (eye roll) and set out to find him. She spent the rest of the evening driving around town searching high and low for the boy who embarrassed her and disrespected her family. When she finally found him, she expected him to be grateful and relieved to see her. She also expected an apology and some remorse for the way he had acted. But instead, he laughed about the situation and brushed it off like it was no big deal. The two went on to date for about another year, a year in which he repeated the same exact actions at another family party, but that's a story for another time.
Should've been a red flag...